BE SUBMISIVE

Submission simply means one who is obedient. To every woman out there, being submissive do not make you inferior to your husband or you becoming  a slave. It simply shows that you are wise, humble and intelligent. You need to be submissive so you can be treated like a Queen in your matrimonial home. Most women thinks that women that are submissive are being regarded as slaves and condemned by their parents but when we look deeply into most marriages we can find men maltreating their wives making them serve them. This does not men women should not be submissive to their husband.

Submission is one of the subjects that have been forgotten in our homes and churches today and also in our lives. Even if you have problems in your marriage, maybe your husband is adulterous but when God sees your heart and knows that you are submissive to your husband. He will listen and He will fight on your behalf, He will even grant you more grace and make you reign in your home. As a woman, playing the key roles into submission is the will of God and it helps drive your marriage to a successful marriage. Some woman have developed arrogant attitudes to their husband as a result of their educational background, financial ability, rich parents, family supports, etc WOMAN BEWARE!

Remember again that you cannot be submissive and be abusive to your husband. Woman know that being submissive is the secret behind every good marriage. God normally rewards wives who are submissive, genuinely it is a woman's responsibility to be submissive to her husband. A man has every authority over a woman in their home while Christ has authorities over the whole church which is known as the body of Christ.

A CAREER WOMAN

       There are some women who feels that it is better to have a steady career before thinking of marriage, some women don't want to be in a married life with no education. I myself also feel it is necessary to get things right before marring your partner, I feel you can fall in love if you want but when it comes to what are you doing presently, what is your income and what type of marriage life do want to involve yourself with too. Is it that one will be washing his clothes, cleaning his house, and taking care of his children. Remember all these are good character of a good wife but not when you are an house wife, you cater for every thing yet you cannot afford to buy anything you want. For example, you go to a big store and you see this beautiful gown you admired so much but you can't afford to buy it because you are not working and all you do is to depend on your partner for every thing. Some times this is not a good idea it is always good that we women should be educated and have a good source of income so that any place in time when you need money to buy anything you can go ahead and buy it.

       I am also this kind of a lady who thinks it is better to have a career before thinking of marriage because I don't want to be a victim of being an house wife and not having any thing to show what I am capable of, I am a very intelligent woman and I am also an hustler too, I don't want any man to pay my bills or give me allowance to eat, buy my clothes or feed my children. I love shopping a lot and I was raised with a silver spoon. I want to be an achiever, an independent woman, a socialite and not a dependant. I know i have not gotten to where I am going but with God i can.

       I called my pastor one day that I want to speak with him, I told him that I would love to pursue my career and he ask me if I were a married woman and I said no and that can wait, he looked at me and he said I am not getting younger any more and I can have both. He opened his Bible to Matthew 7:7 and it says " Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

       I went back home and thought to myself that I could do this if the time is right and if i give all my trust to God that makes all things possible. So any career that any woman wants is out there, if you want a man and a career you can have it both. Just keep believing in God, Everything you want will come true. I as a person too want to become something in life and achieve so greatly. You must identify your goals first, what you want to become in life and I am telling you, you will definitely get there Amen.

Being a Perfect Gentleman

Humans are like animals most particularly the men, they sometimes becomes ignorant in most cases. This types of men have the attributes of becoming a very abusive husband or partner. This is the type of husband that believes he knows everything. He is the unbending, self-involved and unyielding type. Nobody can neither correct nor counsel him.
In any relationship if one of the partner is an autocratic or corrosive husband, it is a guarantee that the relationship cannot live for a long period of time so women must be very careful in selecting our future partner without any haste.
According to the bible scripture in genesis 2: 22-24. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bones of my bines, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
This entails to us that Adam was a man who loved Eve ( his partner ) they were together in the garden naked. They bore children together and nurtured their children together, here Adam behaved like a perfect gentleman who listens and obeyed the commandments of God. They lived together for many years which brought about the existence of everyone of us today.
A man has to be the one who needs to listen to his wife and help her. He must not be dictative and controlling and even if a fight brakes out among them that eventually happens. The man has to be the one to step out to show respect and avoid confrontations with his partner which could lead to the end of the relationship.
In every relationship, fights and arguments are bound to occur, they are inevitable but it is the duty of a man to take the responsibility of showing his wife love by being a perfect gentleman so that unity will reign among them.