THE NIGERIAN PEOPLE'S BATTLES

The struggles of the Nigerian peoples are complex to some extent. The education has been degraded because  the government has failed to do the right thing. The failure of the government affects the student, most of them are unable to perform well in their studies.
There are faults that we can mention which the government made the education of the country to fall. Lack of facilities, abandoned school projects, lack of amenities etc. The government showed no concern for the betterment of the education of the country.

Although we can see some areas where the students are to be blamed too like student using smart phones that encourage social network communities such as Facebook, twitter, blackberry messager. All of these are distracting the students from being serious and attentive in school. Parents are the one buying the smart phones for their children which they cannot benefit or gain anything with it. Doing our time in those days there were nothing like all these things, you can hardly hear any student failing all the subjects in WAEC - West African Examination Council.
The government needs to buckle up in the educational sector so that we can have tomorrow's leaders.

WOMEN WHO CURSE THEIR PARTNER

       Women who intend to curse their partner always end up regretting it sooner or later. It's a bad thing to open your mouth and say negatively about your partner, remember that this same man can end up becoming your husband or the father of your future children. It is common among Nigerian women to say this things, they bitterly curse their partner out of cruelty just because they were cheated on by their partner.

       It is ridiculous or wrong to imply such unacceptable comment which it can damage or destroy your partner's future or career.
Your partner could be praying towards something great which you can benefit from, some men hustle and pray towards great expectation so that they can have the money to marry their beloved but he could also fall into a big mistake by cheating without thinking twice when doing it. Satan also has his own agenda so it is always good to watch out, be careful, pray, control your anger, when having problems in your relationship.

       It is good to compromise all the time with your partner even if he behave stupid sometimes, it is advisable for married women to learn how to forgive their partner and compromise also. I know this is not going to be easy especially when he does it all the time, it is very annoying but we are humans, we are bound to make mistakes. Pray for your partner whether married to him or not and learn how to stop cursing the people you love.

NIGERIAN BATTLES

   The struggles of the Nigerian peoples started in the nineteenth century, it has nothing to do with the overall achievements of the country but the difficulties, challenges the people were faced with. Today as a case study, the masses are still under going challenges to some extent. We can find it very frustrating like with our educational backgrounds. The system of education has rapidly declined or let us say failed.

   Education is a potent tool for fast paced development and investment in the sector. The state of education in this country will continue to fall if there is no adequate funding. It is inadequate funding that is making the education of Nigeria not to improve. If the governor play their politics right, we will get the results we all want.

   Most of these universities also have some administrative problems whereby the schools are unable to release the results of their graduates.

   In Nigeria will can still find some problems arising in the country, the masses are battling it over and over again.

HOW TO KEEP YOUR PARTNER IN A RELATIONSHIP

      Most women think that men naturally cheat, but when you try to sit for a moment,  think and research on the reasons men cheat, we will see that most times it is we ourselves that cause the down fall of our relationships.
       We must know that when you make your self too available in a relationship your partner can end up getting tired of the relationship. We women must try as much as possible to make our partner realise that we are one in a million that is; taking care of our partner. Make him know that we will always be there in the most crucial and difficult moments in their lives. Don't always start a relationship by asking your man to buy you phones, bags, dresses, shoes etc. It doesn't show the maturity in you and also it will show how dependable you will end up becoming to him, it shows how cheap or expensive you can be. Most men are  completely turned off by all these little things that you feel are the normal things a man should do or give in every relationship. We can ask of all these things when we are married but we should have limits according to the size of your husband's account, husbands too get frustrated because of money problems especially when they are out of jobs.
        We must know the type of dresses that fit us, in most cases religion has taken all the most fashionable women out of vogue and style. I am certainly not against any church disciplines but you must look a bit fashionable to your man, not dressing like a slut and like an old mama but look tasteful. Men love to see their wives beautiful.
       Respect your partner by accepting with his terms, this will make your relationship grow stronger. Control your temper when you are profusely angry about something when it has to do with your partner.
     Respect the values of your relationship, don't go around telling every body about the problems and every details of your relationship and what you are facing in your relationship. It will only make you look stupid, your partner will find out how childish you are and he will be forced to redraw from the relationship. Friends are not to be trusted when it comes to relationships, they can deceive and manipulate the entire story most especially female friends.          

NIGERIAN STRUGGLES

It is important to mention that Nigerian politicians collaborated with the British in the later part of the colonial period in order to acquire power, these were seen in the nineteenth century but the efforts made by the Nigerian masses in resisting British colonial conquests and domination were phenomenon that it made the British aware of the bitterness of the people.

Quite a number of the emirs who rejected British rule were killed, deposed, exiled or imprisoned. In order to ensure the loyalty of the new emirs and their successors, they were made to take an oaths of allegiance on the Quran.

From the roles of collaborators, a lot of the educated elite, especially those who resided in Lagos, assumed the position of the protesters against the discrimination by the British. Their protests were mainly motivated by narrow self interest.

Their protests complemented the other forms of opposition which were continually mounted against British domination by other segments and institutions of the Nigerian society. These included student's protests, christian movements, the Mahdist in northern Nigeria, women protests etc. These came into existence as a result of the deterioration in the living conditions of Nigerians. It is noticeable that the Nigerian peoples struggled to achieve and resist the control and domination of the British. 

HAVE A GOOD COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER

       Bad communication is one of the major reasons why many relationships crashes today. All relationships deals with communication so when there's no communication between partners, it brings out wrong information.

       Most people share, listen and communicate with others outside but they find it difficult to do the same with their partners. Communication is an art of passing and receiving messages intelligently. Most people only listen only when they want sex, money or something and after that they don't communicate at all.

       When you find yourself in any relationship and there was a little/small arguments and after that you shun to speak with your partner due to 'i am still not over it yet' please take my advice before doing this with your partner, with your own eyes you will see the crumbling of your relationship day to day.

       Communication breaks down anything that wants to lead to fights, quarrels, and crisis in the relationship. Communication gap is the source of many problems in all relationships.
You should be able to share ideas and day to day activities, and other things to make things work out in your relationship. You should listen and always pay attentions to your partner so that you will get to know yourselves deeper and better.

LOOKING GOOD ALWAYS BESIDE YOUR PARTNER

Wherever you find yourself with your partner whether in the room, in his/her office, around relatives and close by. You should always keep your self neat and attractive but not too sexy. You don't expect looking ridiculous, some partners find it as an eye sore. You have to always look your best so that your wife/husband can be proud of you. Most men love to see their wives looking beautiful to the point that they want to take them out often.
The dressings should not be to the core whereby other men will feel intimated or have sexual calling from the way you have dressed.
Additionally, women most especially should always be careful of the kind of clothes you buy and wear.
A simple t- shirt and shorts is enough to wear in the house. As a woman you must look appealing to your husband/boyfriend. Most men get out of their relationships not only because they want to flirt, they also like to see new things, the other side of their women. Please know how to flaunt your physic if you have a good one, let him know how beautiful you can be. Let him also know that inside of you is awesome while outside of you are absolutely fabulous and stylish, you have your own OGE in you.

THE NIGERIANS STRUGGLES AND THEIR STRENGTHS TILL TODAY

For many years, the Nigerian peoples have gone through so many difficulties in life and at the same time they have manage to survive. They fought for their freedom, afterwards the Nigerians are convincing that what ever problems they are facing in the near future Nigerians will overcome such problems and not to forget these would have caused them lost of lives and properties.

Additionally, when the military regime got hold of power in the Country, the young and old were being frustrated, these brought out so many coup d e'tat. It did not come out easy for the Nigerians who were brave enough to come out and fight for the rights of the people.

Civilian rule did not exist among them but it was not to be something that will be in existence for a long period of time. Abiola contested in some years back, Obasanjo became the first elected president after the collapse of military rule. Nigerians felt they have achieved the right to vote, freedom of speech, etc.

Unfortunately for the Nigerians most of the politicians are corrupt who only cares for their needs and ignores the masses who are left alone to struggle on their own. The Nigerian peoples are all living the average life where no one can determine one's great potentials or future. Most of the graduates have no jobs and roam about the streets of the Country to find what to eat and feed the family. Nigeria is rated among one of the most corrupted countries in the world and the leaders are not concerned or bothered about it. Corruption has so much distrupted and disgraced the image and recognition of the Country to compare to its prestige in the time of Awolowo.

THE STRUGGLES PUT UP BY NIGERIANS AGAINST BRITISH COLONIALISM AND FOR INDEPENDENCE

The struggle for the attainment of independence started in the early 1930s and ended in the 1940s. The masses who bravely struggle against the British domination and eventually force them to give up control over the country. However most of the top politicians who are regarded as "nationalists", founders of modern Nigeria or fathers of Nigeria's nationalism, collaborated with the British. Most of them came later only after the struggle had taken place already, the British had made a decision and conclusion that it was no longer interested in dominating and occupying Nigeria.

The masses struggles were the major factor for the transition to independence and the masses movement also were pitched against the forces of the colonizer.
It is important to understand that the struggle towards independence were the people because they were actually the one who fought for Nigeria's independence but they were not given their rightful and proper place in the history of this Country.

In history, top Nigerian politicians of the First Republic, dead or alive, were credited with the struggle and acquisition of independence of Nigeria. On the other hand, the masses who bravely struggled and fought against the British domination were only seen as a mere spectators or just followers.
While the masses resisted colonial domination, politicians collaborated with the British in order to safe guard their interests and partake in the British colonial exploitation of the Country.

THE BATTLES AND STRUGGLES OF THE NIGERIAN PEOPLES

Nigeria gained independence in 1960, these was described as the freedom from the end of rule of the British government. Nigeria went from the struggles from colonialism to nationalism, this period was seen in the midst of the Nigerians as a difficult and controlling time. After Nigeria gained independence it made the Country to stand as one and began to build on its sovereignty which allowed the country to part take in the international politics and Nigeria became recognized among top Nations of the world. It led to the changing of the foreign policy of the nation.
Before 1960, Nigeria was also in the hands of slave traders, who were selling humans for slavery. These people served under the rule of their master who were brutal towards them. The people of Nigeria were taken from their country to the ship and was shipped through the Trans Atlantic ocean to the new Countries such as Portugal, Britain, the Americas etc. They were used for hard labour, they were working on agricultural plantations and theses brought a rapid growth of export and import of human slavery among the Europeans that were engaging in slave trades.

AN ABUSIVE PARTNER

When you find yourself with any abusive partner and inside you, you strongly believe that the relationship is still intact and every thing is okay. You may think it is normal to engage in an abusive relationship "well is there any relationship without a problem". Seriously you are right even in a family there you will see problems arising which these are very common. If you find yourself there and you think you are loved by your partner and he knows what he is doing. I must tell you that he is not in charge of his temper. There are many women who are in such similar situation and at the end they loose their lives.

I am here to advice every woman out there who is battling with these problems please make sure you report your case to the nearest police station or any welfare for advice and directions on what to do or just end the nasty relationship so that you will be there to take care of your children and other loved ones.
Please don't ever risk your life for the sake of the love of marriage and relationship, it does not worth the suffering and abuse. Surely there's somebody out there that will love you and show it to you every time. I must say this again that it is advisable for every woman to have a good job or business or better still become an artisan to sustain a good standard living so that no man will over ride her or mistreat her when you don't deserve it at all.

It is a very good thing to be loved and well taken cared of but not when you are loved by a man and he takes you as his boxing ring.

BEING AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN PART 2

I have three questions to ask every woman in a relationship.
1) You are a socialite, so would you live your job and marry a man who would want to make you an house wife
2) You like shopping and buying expensive things, would you allow your new husband to make you his house wife
3) You like flashing things e.g traveling out of the country while you were unmarried but now you have married a man who would prefer to keep you as his house wife.
Any woman who says a man, her husband, her lover is ready to do all things ready down for her without any circumstance happening is just deceiving herself. Please don't get me wrong some men are prince charming. He is always there, supportive, he is willing to drop the cash whenever also there's nothing bad in becoming an house wife but remember what i said previously, what if his job starts crumbling whereby no more usual flow of money like before. You as a woman, you are educated or you come from a wealthy family who are ready to boost your career or business forward but because you got married you ended up depending on your husband for every thing. If things turns around unexpectedly you will be the guilty one, you had opportunity but it went out of hand just because of carelessness.
To my advice to every woman or house wife out there, always find some thing to do to support your family whether business or getting a job.
Our husbands are loving and supportive people so it is also our duties to be supportive too, to maintain the flow of the family income.
Maltreating sometimes derives or start from when your husband is frustrated or he is being bothered by you. So you need to make your husband happy.
Also you need to become a family financial expert. You must master the art of making money legitimately. You must also learn how to manage your family finance rightly. Know about budgeting savings, investment and by all means improve your financial intelligent. You must be hard working, strong and industrious. You must know the value of everything so that problems will not arise in the your relationship.

INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Remember that relationships are like investments. The more you put in, the more you can get back, that is putting more effort in building up your relationship. For example if your partner calls you on the phone for a brunch or dinner and you are so busy that you cannot leave anything down at the moment but remember take a minute and a deep breath that there are some sacrifices you do to maintain the strength and possibilities of the relationship. Building up the relationship you just started or you have been in for quiet some time takes a hard work to maintain, it really takes time. Loves does not come easily it takes time.
     You must obey the laws of relationships by satisfying the other side of you which is your partner, no one likes to be neglected. This may sound ridiculous but if you were in the same position finding yourself alone and you need some love or support or someone to be there to hold you and kiss you, also be around whenever you want him or she to be there for you always. In a relationship you mustn't be self centered and ignorant in most times because you may find your self undependable or alone in the woods which these means being dumped by your partner.

THE NUMBER ONE RULES TO ALL RELATIONSHIPS STARTS WITH
1) Being dependable
2) Satisfying your partner (showing love and support)
3) Being perfect
4) Sensible (By understanding your partner)