ALWAYS SHOW LOVE

Some men think it is right to leave their wives when they feel their wives can no longer satisfy them sexually. Men sometimes can be so ungrateful, when it comes to being faithful they are always the first to fall as victims. God did not create woman to be a puppet for man and to mistreat them but to be as an assistant/helper for them.

As a man, he must try to show love to his partner always and not making her feel lonely and sad. You must encourage her to enhance her beauty if it is necessary and not drive her crazy. Men can avoid fornicating from one woman to another. It is a sin to leave your wife and then lay with another woman. So as a man, think first before making the biggest mistake of your life. In the bible, we are being taught how to cherish/love one another and not become a problem. Try to appreciate your wife no matter how old she's looking and let her know how much you love her, treat her like your baby and make her feel comfortable being with you all day long. No woman likes adulterous man.

In Ephesians 5:28-31. It says "So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself, For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.

NIGERIAN STRUGGLES

I remember the day i came out off my house then i said to myself that i wish i can be next president of Nigeria, i thought to myself again that will i be able to rebuild what has been broken/damaged in the country, i believe that it is only a messiah or God that can accomplished that in this country without any problems or difficulties. The country is so devastated that it needs a new leader/government to move the nation from being disrupted or dissonance.

 Many youths are misfortuned today to live a greener pasture because of the way/condition the country is at. So what are we the people of the nation to do. We have become slaves to our own government, they don't listen to the voices/cries of their countrymen. These politicians were voted in, well whether through mischief of not they are there to serve us but we are the one serving them. I keep telling myself when will the voices of its own nation "Nigeria" be heard by its ruling government.

Don't mislead me or be judgemental first, i know some of them are making efforts for example the control/eradication of EBOLA.

However, in our discussions here are to look deep into the struggles of the Nigerian peoples and not their accomplishments/achievements. So we must emphasize particularly on what are the problems the people are facing. I still feel that the nation needs serious counterpart/upper-hand/management when it comes to its policies and how the country is being governed by the government.

HEART BREAKER

We all need to be very careful not to fall into the hands of heart breakers.

NOTE* It is not that they are born to be like that or they accept to go out there and break all hearts but sometimes our partners tend to be or can be controversial which this can lead to breaking one's heart.

Heart breakers are one of the most negative people to hang out with and with this in mind we need not to meet a man today and then the next thing is to fall in love with him without knowing/studying his background and what he is all about. It is sometimes seen as a game whereby they play with another man's heart regardless of what that person is passing through or whether he/she can get over it later or sooner. Never let a man get the best of you or treat you like you are not worth a thing,  heart breaker ridicules one's self esteem and destroys lots of things in you for example wrecking your emotions.

So it is necessary that we should know him/her first then you can consider opening your heart unto him/she.

Remember man destroys God repairs

Here we come in 2015

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HEART BREAK

Any time you find yourself in a relationship and it seems you both don't fit or belong to each other. Remember that it could be that you are both moving in different circles so don't force it just let it go. If it is meant to be then it will be but if it is not don't bother disturbing yourself it won't work out you could even end up being the one feeling hurt the most. 

Your emotions will start to develop into something else, you will feel let down for example not beautiful enough or womanly.

I would rather let him go than to see myself feeling bad/hurt about the whole situation and one thing about me I find it very hard to forget easily even if I forgive so for one to have a peace of mind from a nasty break up, get over it as soon as possible and don't push/force him to fall in love with you all over again. You may end up being the loser/jackass.

LEARN TO GIVE BACK TO YOUR PARTNER

       We all know that 80% percent of women are materialistic, they prefer men buying them things without giving back. Most women have it in their head that most successful men are better in every marriage. Well to me I feel that if I marry a successful man then I would be able to build myself under him that is improving my knowledge by getting more education. But in most cases not all of them can be honest, cheerful, loving or respect his partner. Most of them can be wife mal treater's and they make your life a living hell. You never can read all their characters until you marry them. Some women are very fortunate maybe because of the grace of God, but why should we always think like that in our head. You can end up disappointed not expecting what you expected.

       Our main focus here is that we shouldn't always expect something from our partner every time. Even if they always love to buy us things. We should try to buy something for him by giving back as a sign of appreciation. You can always take him out too to show your love and appreciation to him this way he will have respect for you. It will always push him to buy you more things for you in the end. So the more you receive give back then you receive more. Being a cheerful giver is a good thing whether you know the person or not, when you give you receive blessings from God. So learn how to give back to your partners.

       Most marriages/relationships fails because some women are just gold diggers, they feel it is their rights to always get something out from their partner which is not true, most men are turned off by these statements.

THE NIGERIA STRUGGLES

       Before/after 1960 Nigerians were exposed or were giving different kinds of opportunities, some were granted scholarships to study in a prestigious university. The government provided so many opportunities for the people at the time.

        Nigeria became known and had prestige in the international polities that the country was well known and recognised by the top nations of the world. We did not have to struggle for anything from the super powers because we were known as the giant of Africa.    
       Nigeria also contributed to the fight against apartheid rule and the attainment of the other African nation's independence.

       Now our focus is to discuss or explain whether Nigeria is till the giant of Africa. Are we still recognized by the super powers with the prestige and respect we had in the past. The peoples of the country are not happy of what the country has become, many are forced to immigrate to other better African countries and among sane countries. The country reputation among super powers has degenerated/reduced.

        In Nigeria I feel we need a government that can be trusted and can maintain/control the feasibility of the nation's problems and respect the peoples right to vote without manipulating the election.

        Many graduates are with no job for many years now, people are suffering and during. The boko haram are terrorising the nation and its peoples. The government has failed to do justice by serving the people well.

        The economy is so bad that children are hungry. All these examples keeps singing in my head that when will all this things end in our country NIGERIA.

YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO FORM A BOND/ATTACHMENT WITH YOUR PARTNER

In every relationship it is good that a man and a woman understand each other in their relationship, so how do they go about it? Take yourself out on a cruise during the holiday, some couples like these and they use it to get closer and closer everyday by getting to know each other. Without you connecting every time it is like the relationship is a total joke. I remember my first boyfriend, we were both in the same university until some departments were moved out of the campus. So our communication was bridged and we broke up "ended our relationship". Is not that we don't call but we don't see each other more often like we use to anymore, we were both very busy with school work at some point, my mobile phone also got stolen later that made it even worse.
The relationship eventually crashed because there was no more communication between ourselves. The bond was broken, so we must have an attachment with our partners so as to be able to understand each other and communicate easily.

LEARN HOW TO BE FRIENDLY WITH FRIENDS OF YOUR PARTNER

It is important to know that friends of your spouse are one the most important people you must take serious because they help to build your relationship so it is necessary that you hold on to his/her friends. You never can tell when your relationship will hit the rock 'brake up' so you must try not to pick friends for him or tell him/her that you don't like one in particular. He may have offended you or embarrassed you 'men are annoying sometimes' but with maturity you have to take the matter with sense by thinking how you can manoeuvre/separating yourself from him without disrespecting him.
He could eventually be the one to save your relationship in the near future so you must try to be very careful.
There are some women who like to select friends for their partners, these women are regarded as being dictators or commanding. If you are this kind of person, it will not help you at all. His close friends or best friends always knows what's best for him/her even if some could distract him/her from doing the right thing or are negatively affecting his/her life, you must pretend you like them.
However, if he didn't like them he wouldn't have them as his friends but if you think there's this particular friend of his/her that will destroy his/her life and your relationship then you must sit him down and advise him to move away from such person.
Be smart, be brave, and be attentive/ready to know who are his good friends and what is good for him, not picky but at least get to know his/her good and bad friends. They help sometimes to solve quarrels, arguments, and other issues found in all relationships.

A CAREER WOMAN

       There are some women who feels that it is better to have a steady career before thinking of marriage, some women don't want to be in a married life with no education. I myself also feel it is necessary to get things right before marring your partner, I feel you can fall in love if you want but when it comes to what are you doing presently, what is your income and what type of marriage life do want to involve yourself with too. Is it that one will be washing his clothes, cleaning his house, and taking care of his children. Remember all these are good character of a good wife but not when you are an house wife, you cater for every thing yet you cannot afford to buy anything you want. For example, you go to a big store and you see this beautiful gown you admired so much but you can't afford to buy it because you are not working and all you do is to depend on your partner for every thing. Some times this is not a good idea it is always good that we women should be educated and have a good source of income so that any place in time when you need money to buy anything you can go ahead and buy it.

       I am also this kind of a lady who thinks it is better to have a career before thinking of marriage because I don't want to be a victim of being an house wife and not having any thing to show what I am capable of, I am a very intelligent woman and I am also an hustler too, I don't want any man to pay my bills or give me allowance to eat, buy my clothes or feed my children. I love shopping a lot and I was raised with a silver spoon. I want to be an achiever, an independent woman, a socialite and not a dependant. I know i have not gotten to where I am going but with God i can.

       I called my pastor one day that I want to speak with him, I told him that I would love to pursue my career and he ask me if I were a married woman and I said no and that can wait, he looked at me and he said I am not getting younger any more and I can have both. He opened his Bible to Matthew 7:7 and it says " Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

       I went back home and thought to myself that I could do this if the time is right and if i give all my trust to God that makes all things possible. So any career that any woman wants is out there, if you want a man and a career you can have it both. Just keep believing in God, Everything you want will come true. I as a person too want to become something in life and achieve so greatly. You must identify your goals first, what you want to become in life and I am telling you, you will definitely get there Amen.

THE NIGERIAN PEOPLE'S BATTLES

The struggles of the Nigerian peoples are complex to some extent. The education has been degraded because  the government has failed to do the right thing. The failure of the government affects the student, most of them are unable to perform well in their studies.
There are faults that we can mention which the government made the education of the country to fall. Lack of facilities, abandoned school projects, lack of amenities etc. The government showed no concern for the betterment of the education of the country.

Although we can see some areas where the students are to be blamed too like student using smart phones that encourage social network communities such as Facebook, twitter, blackberry messager. All of these are distracting the students from being serious and attentive in school. Parents are the one buying the smart phones for their children which they cannot benefit or gain anything with it. Doing our time in those days there were nothing like all these things, you can hardly hear any student failing all the subjects in WAEC - West African Examination Council.
The government needs to buckle up in the educational sector so that we can have tomorrow's leaders.

WOMEN WHO CURSE THEIR PARTNER

       Women who intend to curse their partner always end up regretting it sooner or later. It's a bad thing to open your mouth and say negatively about your partner, remember that this same man can end up becoming your husband or the father of your future children. It is common among Nigerian women to say this things, they bitterly curse their partner out of cruelty just because they were cheated on by their partner.

       It is ridiculous or wrong to imply such unacceptable comment which it can damage or destroy your partner's future or career.
Your partner could be praying towards something great which you can benefit from, some men hustle and pray towards great expectation so that they can have the money to marry their beloved but he could also fall into a big mistake by cheating without thinking twice when doing it. Satan also has his own agenda so it is always good to watch out, be careful, pray, control your anger, when having problems in your relationship.

       It is good to compromise all the time with your partner even if he behave stupid sometimes, it is advisable for married women to learn how to forgive their partner and compromise also. I know this is not going to be easy especially when he does it all the time, it is very annoying but we are humans, we are bound to make mistakes. Pray for your partner whether married to him or not and learn how to stop cursing the people you love.

NIGERIAN BATTLES

   The struggles of the Nigerian peoples started in the nineteenth century, it has nothing to do with the overall achievements of the country but the difficulties, challenges the people were faced with. Today as a case study, the masses are still under going challenges to some extent. We can find it very frustrating like with our educational backgrounds. The system of education has rapidly declined or let us say failed.

   Education is a potent tool for fast paced development and investment in the sector. The state of education in this country will continue to fall if there is no adequate funding. It is inadequate funding that is making the education of Nigeria not to improve. If the governor play their politics right, we will get the results we all want.

   Most of these universities also have some administrative problems whereby the schools are unable to release the results of their graduates.

   In Nigeria will can still find some problems arising in the country, the masses are battling it over and over again.

HOW TO KEEP YOUR PARTNER IN A RELATIONSHIP

      Most women think that men naturally cheat, but when you try to sit for a moment,  think and research on the reasons men cheat, we will see that most times it is we ourselves that cause the down fall of our relationships.
       We must know that when you make your self too available in a relationship your partner can end up getting tired of the relationship. We women must try as much as possible to make our partner realise that we are one in a million that is; taking care of our partner. Make him know that we will always be there in the most crucial and difficult moments in their lives. Don't always start a relationship by asking your man to buy you phones, bags, dresses, shoes etc. It doesn't show the maturity in you and also it will show how dependable you will end up becoming to him, it shows how cheap or expensive you can be. Most men are  completely turned off by all these little things that you feel are the normal things a man should do or give in every relationship. We can ask of all these things when we are married but we should have limits according to the size of your husband's account, husbands too get frustrated because of money problems especially when they are out of jobs.
        We must know the type of dresses that fit us, in most cases religion has taken all the most fashionable women out of vogue and style. I am certainly not against any church disciplines but you must look a bit fashionable to your man, not dressing like a slut and like an old mama but look tasteful. Men love to see their wives beautiful.
       Respect your partner by accepting with his terms, this will make your relationship grow stronger. Control your temper when you are profusely angry about something when it has to do with your partner.
     Respect the values of your relationship, don't go around telling every body about the problems and every details of your relationship and what you are facing in your relationship. It will only make you look stupid, your partner will find out how childish you are and he will be forced to redraw from the relationship. Friends are not to be trusted when it comes to relationships, they can deceive and manipulate the entire story most especially female friends.          

NIGERIAN STRUGGLES

It is important to mention that Nigerian politicians collaborated with the British in the later part of the colonial period in order to acquire power, these were seen in the nineteenth century but the efforts made by the Nigerian masses in resisting British colonial conquests and domination were phenomenon that it made the British aware of the bitterness of the people.

Quite a number of the emirs who rejected British rule were killed, deposed, exiled or imprisoned. In order to ensure the loyalty of the new emirs and their successors, they were made to take an oaths of allegiance on the Quran.

From the roles of collaborators, a lot of the educated elite, especially those who resided in Lagos, assumed the position of the protesters against the discrimination by the British. Their protests were mainly motivated by narrow self interest.

Their protests complemented the other forms of opposition which were continually mounted against British domination by other segments and institutions of the Nigerian society. These included student's protests, christian movements, the Mahdist in northern Nigeria, women protests etc. These came into existence as a result of the deterioration in the living conditions of Nigerians. It is noticeable that the Nigerian peoples struggled to achieve and resist the control and domination of the British. 

HAVE A GOOD COMMUNICATION WITH YOUR PARTNER

       Bad communication is one of the major reasons why many relationships crashes today. All relationships deals with communication so when there's no communication between partners, it brings out wrong information.

       Most people share, listen and communicate with others outside but they find it difficult to do the same with their partners. Communication is an art of passing and receiving messages intelligently. Most people only listen only when they want sex, money or something and after that they don't communicate at all.

       When you find yourself in any relationship and there was a little/small arguments and after that you shun to speak with your partner due to 'i am still not over it yet' please take my advice before doing this with your partner, with your own eyes you will see the crumbling of your relationship day to day.

       Communication breaks down anything that wants to lead to fights, quarrels, and crisis in the relationship. Communication gap is the source of many problems in all relationships.
You should be able to share ideas and day to day activities, and other things to make things work out in your relationship. You should listen and always pay attentions to your partner so that you will get to know yourselves deeper and better.

LOOKING GOOD ALWAYS BESIDE YOUR PARTNER

Wherever you find yourself with your partner whether in the room, in his/her office, around relatives and close by. You should always keep your self neat and attractive but not too sexy. You don't expect looking ridiculous, some partners find it as an eye sore. You have to always look your best so that your wife/husband can be proud of you. Most men love to see their wives looking beautiful to the point that they want to take them out often.
The dressings should not be to the core whereby other men will feel intimated or have sexual calling from the way you have dressed.
Additionally, women most especially should always be careful of the kind of clothes you buy and wear.
A simple t- shirt and shorts is enough to wear in the house. As a woman you must look appealing to your husband/boyfriend. Most men get out of their relationships not only because they want to flirt, they also like to see new things, the other side of their women. Please know how to flaunt your physic if you have a good one, let him know how beautiful you can be. Let him also know that inside of you is awesome while outside of you are absolutely fabulous and stylish, you have your own OGE in you.

THE NIGERIANS STRUGGLES AND THEIR STRENGTHS TILL TODAY

For many years, the Nigerian peoples have gone through so many difficulties in life and at the same time they have manage to survive. They fought for their freedom, afterwards the Nigerians are convincing that what ever problems they are facing in the near future Nigerians will overcome such problems and not to forget these would have caused them lost of lives and properties.

Additionally, when the military regime got hold of power in the Country, the young and old were being frustrated, these brought out so many coup d e'tat. It did not come out easy for the Nigerians who were brave enough to come out and fight for the rights of the people.

Civilian rule did not exist among them but it was not to be something that will be in existence for a long period of time. Abiola contested in some years back, Obasanjo became the first elected president after the collapse of military rule. Nigerians felt they have achieved the right to vote, freedom of speech, etc.

Unfortunately for the Nigerians most of the politicians are corrupt who only cares for their needs and ignores the masses who are left alone to struggle on their own. The Nigerian peoples are all living the average life where no one can determine one's great potentials or future. Most of the graduates have no jobs and roam about the streets of the Country to find what to eat and feed the family. Nigeria is rated among one of the most corrupted countries in the world and the leaders are not concerned or bothered about it. Corruption has so much distrupted and disgraced the image and recognition of the Country to compare to its prestige in the time of Awolowo.

THE STRUGGLES PUT UP BY NIGERIANS AGAINST BRITISH COLONIALISM AND FOR INDEPENDENCE

The struggle for the attainment of independence started in the early 1930s and ended in the 1940s. The masses who bravely struggle against the British domination and eventually force them to give up control over the country. However most of the top politicians who are regarded as "nationalists", founders of modern Nigeria or fathers of Nigeria's nationalism, collaborated with the British. Most of them came later only after the struggle had taken place already, the British had made a decision and conclusion that it was no longer interested in dominating and occupying Nigeria.

The masses struggles were the major factor for the transition to independence and the masses movement also were pitched against the forces of the colonizer.
It is important to understand that the struggle towards independence were the people because they were actually the one who fought for Nigeria's independence but they were not given their rightful and proper place in the history of this Country.

In history, top Nigerian politicians of the First Republic, dead or alive, were credited with the struggle and acquisition of independence of Nigeria. On the other hand, the masses who bravely struggled and fought against the British domination were only seen as a mere spectators or just followers.
While the masses resisted colonial domination, politicians collaborated with the British in order to safe guard their interests and partake in the British colonial exploitation of the Country.

THE BATTLES AND STRUGGLES OF THE NIGERIAN PEOPLES

Nigeria gained independence in 1960, these was described as the freedom from the end of rule of the British government. Nigeria went from the struggles from colonialism to nationalism, this period was seen in the midst of the Nigerians as a difficult and controlling time. After Nigeria gained independence it made the Country to stand as one and began to build on its sovereignty which allowed the country to part take in the international politics and Nigeria became recognized among top Nations of the world. It led to the changing of the foreign policy of the nation.
Before 1960, Nigeria was also in the hands of slave traders, who were selling humans for slavery. These people served under the rule of their master who were brutal towards them. The people of Nigeria were taken from their country to the ship and was shipped through the Trans Atlantic ocean to the new Countries such as Portugal, Britain, the Americas etc. They were used for hard labour, they were working on agricultural plantations and theses brought a rapid growth of export and import of human slavery among the Europeans that were engaging in slave trades.

AN ABUSIVE PARTNER

When you find yourself with any abusive partner and inside you, you strongly believe that the relationship is still intact and every thing is okay. You may think it is normal to engage in an abusive relationship "well is there any relationship without a problem". Seriously you are right even in a family there you will see problems arising which these are very common. If you find yourself there and you think you are loved by your partner and he knows what he is doing. I must tell you that he is not in charge of his temper. There are many women who are in such similar situation and at the end they loose their lives.

I am here to advice every woman out there who is battling with these problems please make sure you report your case to the nearest police station or any welfare for advice and directions on what to do or just end the nasty relationship so that you will be there to take care of your children and other loved ones.
Please don't ever risk your life for the sake of the love of marriage and relationship, it does not worth the suffering and abuse. Surely there's somebody out there that will love you and show it to you every time. I must say this again that it is advisable for every woman to have a good job or business or better still become an artisan to sustain a good standard living so that no man will over ride her or mistreat her when you don't deserve it at all.

It is a very good thing to be loved and well taken cared of but not when you are loved by a man and he takes you as his boxing ring.

BEING AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN PART 2

I have three questions to ask every woman in a relationship.
1) You are a socialite, so would you live your job and marry a man who would want to make you an house wife
2) You like shopping and buying expensive things, would you allow your new husband to make you his house wife
3) You like flashing things e.g traveling out of the country while you were unmarried but now you have married a man who would prefer to keep you as his house wife.
Any woman who says a man, her husband, her lover is ready to do all things ready down for her without any circumstance happening is just deceiving herself. Please don't get me wrong some men are prince charming. He is always there, supportive, he is willing to drop the cash whenever also there's nothing bad in becoming an house wife but remember what i said previously, what if his job starts crumbling whereby no more usual flow of money like before. You as a woman, you are educated or you come from a wealthy family who are ready to boost your career or business forward but because you got married you ended up depending on your husband for every thing. If things turns around unexpectedly you will be the guilty one, you had opportunity but it went out of hand just because of carelessness.
To my advice to every woman or house wife out there, always find some thing to do to support your family whether business or getting a job.
Our husbands are loving and supportive people so it is also our duties to be supportive too, to maintain the flow of the family income.
Maltreating sometimes derives or start from when your husband is frustrated or he is being bothered by you. So you need to make your husband happy.
Also you need to become a family financial expert. You must master the art of making money legitimately. You must also learn how to manage your family finance rightly. Know about budgeting savings, investment and by all means improve your financial intelligent. You must be hard working, strong and industrious. You must know the value of everything so that problems will not arise in the your relationship.

INVESTING IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

    Remember that relationships are like investments. The more you put in, the more you can get back, that is putting more effort in building up your relationship. For example if your partner calls you on the phone for a brunch or dinner and you are so busy that you cannot leave anything down at the moment but remember take a minute and a deep breath that there are some sacrifices you do to maintain the strength and possibilities of the relationship. Building up the relationship you just started or you have been in for quiet some time takes a hard work to maintain, it really takes time. Loves does not come easily it takes time.
     You must obey the laws of relationships by satisfying the other side of you which is your partner, no one likes to be neglected. This may sound ridiculous but if you were in the same position finding yourself alone and you need some love or support or someone to be there to hold you and kiss you, also be around whenever you want him or she to be there for you always. In a relationship you mustn't be self centered and ignorant in most times because you may find your self undependable or alone in the woods which these means being dumped by your partner.

THE NUMBER ONE RULES TO ALL RELATIONSHIPS STARTS WITH
1) Being dependable
2) Satisfying your partner (showing love and support)
3) Being perfect
4) Sensible (By understanding your partner)

HOW TO PAMPER YOUR PARTNER

Are we aware that every man or woman wants attentions from their partners most particularly in the bedrooms. If you don't know what it takes to satisfy your partner, it is essential that we should all find out.
A woman should know what her husband or boyfriend likes if it is his favorite food he particularly enjoys. Make sure you prepare it every time.
Also men generally want their Wives to be exited about sex, it must be a fun thing and not with force. They should both look forward to it and make it a thrilling experience for both of them. Men hate woman that fail to smile or be happy as she is being made love with. Sex is one of the most important things that men think or fantasize about so it is essential and important that wives should satisfy them by all means without aggressions involving in their bed. Men appreciate wives that seduce them into bed and willingly turn them on. One thing my man will want more of is sex. Your man will be very glad if you will be ready for more frequent sex. Remember, an average man want sex at least twice a week.
Additionally, men want their wives to dress cute and inviting. No man wants his wife to dress shabbily like an old woman.
A wife or partner must look good and dress fitted at all cost.
You must be caring, loving, affectionate and giving to your partner in the bed room or any where.

HOW TO BUILD AN HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP

A relationship contains of two persons and the two must be united, they must understand themselves, believe in the strength of their relationship by showing genuine love, feelings, true affections between one another.
An healthy relationship starts when the two shares the same passions, intimacy.

SEX
Sex should be one of the things they use to connect with each other at least everyday.

CHAT
All partners should always connect by having a day or two out of work to relax and get to know each other more and better. Going out often relaxes the brain and relationships build up faster when they connect all the time.

3 Things That Forms A Strong Relationship

APPRECIATION
RESPECT
LOVE
In every marriage or relationship there's always a job to be done and shared among two partners in the family for example talking bath for the children, handling the laundry, or taking the trash out. If a woman wants to be treated like a queen, she must have the attitude of saying `thank you' to her husband even if he was unable to fix the job.
She mustn't be cold and abusive towards her husband failing to complete the job in the family. Both of them should help out to do the job but if one has failed or was unable, the other one should at least show appreciation and this means giving him or her the focus of your undivided attention at some point and everyday.

RESPECT
There is a simple rule or how to treat your spouse with dignity, just treat him the way you would like to be treated.
A woman should always show love by having respect  for her husband, she must be proud of him and not drag him down in public. Respect is the foundation of love.

LOVE
In every marriage the word I LOVE YOU should be said everyday to each other. Love is not just a word it should be put into action. It also builds relationships deeper and stronger. Nagging women meet themselves at wrong side of failed marriages.
Marriage is about men and women working together, you both need each other. Therefore, appreciating your spouse, giving him or her  respect and showering him or her with love is the basis of a strong marriage.

Being a Perfect Gentleman

Humans are like animals most particularly the men, they sometimes becomes ignorant in most cases. This types of men have the attributes of becoming a very abusive husband or partner. This is the type of husband that believes he knows everything. He is the unbending, self-involved and unyielding type. Nobody can neither correct nor counsel him.
In any relationship if one of the partner is an autocratic or corrosive husband, it is a guarantee that the relationship cannot live for a long period of time so women must be very careful in selecting our future partner without any haste.
According to the bible scripture in genesis 2: 22-24. And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, this is now bones of my bines, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
This entails to us that Adam was a man who loved Eve ( his partner ) they were together in the garden naked. They bore children together and nurtured their children together, here Adam behaved like a perfect gentleman who listens and obeyed the commandments of God. They lived together for many years which brought about the existence of everyone of us today.
A man has to be the one who needs to listen to his wife and help her. He must not be dictative and controlling and even if a fight brakes out among them that eventually happens. The man has to be the one to step out to show respect and avoid confrontations with his partner which could lead to the end of the relationship.
In every relationship, fights and arguments are bound to occur, they are inevitable but it is the duty of a man to take the responsibility of showing his wife love by being a perfect gentleman so that unity will reign among them.

BEING AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN

Most women in Nigeria intend to become nothing in life most especially when they are married. I am not against being an house wife but not with standing, with a small scale market that now a day house wives could venture into will bring about a bit of Independence and not always depending on one's husband for house maintenance, groceries, sanitary wares etc. They may not be willing or able to finance all these things in most cases. Most married men are not even capable in paying their children school fees.
Lack of supplies of food, clothes, and amenities turn some married men mad and they become ignorant and abusive on their wives, all these came as a result of only one person in the whole family is the root of source of income. I have seen many crashed marriages even in the area where i live, most of their marriages experience maltreating of the woman in the house.

I experienced a man who dragged his wife out of their house and then beats the hell out of her. All because the man's business was no longer booming like before, all his business started crumbling but before this he was comfortable to have his wife as a stay home mom.

I as a person will never allow any man to batter my face in public like that nor in the house where we live. I would prefer to at least have something doing so that every little thing my husband can't afford I can always look into my purse to acquire such items. I advice every stay home mum to practically start a small business today for a start just to know how well the business would go.

Being independent keeps the family strong, united and able to adapt in any strange, tragic, or sudden situation. May our God help us and bless we women with ideas to start something today Amen.