ALWAYS SHOW LOVE

Some men think it is right to leave their wives when they feel their wives can no longer satisfy them sexually. Men sometimes can be so ungrateful, when it comes to being faithful they are always the first to fall as victims. God did not create woman to be a puppet for man and to mistreat them but to be as an assistant/helper for them.

As a man, he must try to show love to his partner always and not making her feel lonely and sad. You must encourage her to enhance her beauty if it is necessary and not drive her crazy. Men can avoid fornicating from one woman to another. It is a sin to leave your wife and then lay with another woman. So as a man, think first before making the biggest mistake of your life. In the bible, we are being taught how to cherish/love one another and not become a problem. Try to appreciate your wife no matter how old she's looking and let her know how much you love her, treat her like your baby and make her feel comfortable being with you all day long. No woman likes adulterous man.

In Ephesians 5:28-31. It says "So men ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself, For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth it, even as the lord the church: For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and the two shall be one flesh.

NIGERIAN STRUGGLES

I remember the day i came out off my house then i said to myself that i wish i can be next president of Nigeria, i thought to myself again that will i be able to rebuild what has been broken/damaged in the country, i believe that it is only a messiah or God that can accomplished that in this country without any problems or difficulties. The country is so devastated that it needs a new leader/government to move the nation from being disrupted or dissonance.

 Many youths are misfortuned today to live a greener pasture because of the way/condition the country is at. So what are we the people of the nation to do. We have become slaves to our own government, they don't listen to the voices/cries of their countrymen. These politicians were voted in, well whether through mischief of not they are there to serve us but we are the one serving them. I keep telling myself when will the voices of its own nation "Nigeria" be heard by its ruling government.

Don't mislead me or be judgemental first, i know some of them are making efforts for example the control/eradication of EBOLA.

However, in our discussions here are to look deep into the struggles of the Nigerian peoples and not their accomplishments/achievements. So we must emphasize particularly on what are the problems the people are facing. I still feel that the nation needs serious counterpart/upper-hand/management when it comes to its policies and how the country is being governed by the government.

HEART BREAKER

We all need to be very careful not to fall into the hands of heart breakers.

NOTE* It is not that they are born to be like that or they accept to go out there and break all hearts but sometimes our partners tend to be or can be controversial which this can lead to breaking one's heart.

Heart breakers are one of the most negative people to hang out with and with this in mind we need not to meet a man today and then the next thing is to fall in love with him without knowing/studying his background and what he is all about. It is sometimes seen as a game whereby they play with another man's heart regardless of what that person is passing through or whether he/she can get over it later or sooner. Never let a man get the best of you or treat you like you are not worth a thing,  heart breaker ridicules one's self esteem and destroys lots of things in you for example wrecking your emotions.

So it is necessary that we should know him/her first then you can consider opening your heart unto him/she.

Remember man destroys God repairs

Here we come in 2015

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HEART BREAK

Any time you find yourself in a relationship and it seems you both don't fit or belong to each other. Remember that it could be that you are both moving in different circles so don't force it just let it go. If it is meant to be then it will be but if it is not don't bother disturbing yourself it won't work out you could even end up being the one feeling hurt the most. 

Your emotions will start to develop into something else, you will feel let down for example not beautiful enough or womanly.

I would rather let him go than to see myself feeling bad/hurt about the whole situation and one thing about me I find it very hard to forget easily even if I forgive so for one to have a peace of mind from a nasty break up, get over it as soon as possible and don't push/force him to fall in love with you all over again. You may end up being the loser/jackass.

LEARN TO GIVE BACK TO YOUR PARTNER

       We all know that 80% percent of women are materialistic, they prefer men buying them things without giving back. Most women have it in their head that most successful men are better in every marriage. Well to me I feel that if I marry a successful man then I would be able to build myself under him that is improving my knowledge by getting more education. But in most cases not all of them can be honest, cheerful, loving or respect his partner. Most of them can be wife mal treater's and they make your life a living hell. You never can read all their characters until you marry them. Some women are very fortunate maybe because of the grace of God, but why should we always think like that in our head. You can end up disappointed not expecting what you expected.

       Our main focus here is that we shouldn't always expect something from our partner every time. Even if they always love to buy us things. We should try to buy something for him by giving back as a sign of appreciation. You can always take him out too to show your love and appreciation to him this way he will have respect for you. It will always push him to buy you more things for you in the end. So the more you receive give back then you receive more. Being a cheerful giver is a good thing whether you know the person or not, when you give you receive blessings from God. So learn how to give back to your partners.

       Most marriages/relationships fails because some women are just gold diggers, they feel it is their rights to always get something out from their partner which is not true, most men are turned off by these statements.

THE NIGERIA STRUGGLES

       Before/after 1960 Nigerians were exposed or were giving different kinds of opportunities, some were granted scholarships to study in a prestigious university. The government provided so many opportunities for the people at the time.

        Nigeria became known and had prestige in the international polities that the country was well known and recognised by the top nations of the world. We did not have to struggle for anything from the super powers because we were known as the giant of Africa.    
       Nigeria also contributed to the fight against apartheid rule and the attainment of the other African nation's independence.

       Now our focus is to discuss or explain whether Nigeria is till the giant of Africa. Are we still recognized by the super powers with the prestige and respect we had in the past. The peoples of the country are not happy of what the country has become, many are forced to immigrate to other better African countries and among sane countries. The country reputation among super powers has degenerated/reduced.

        In Nigeria I feel we need a government that can be trusted and can maintain/control the feasibility of the nation's problems and respect the peoples right to vote without manipulating the election.

        Many graduates are with no job for many years now, people are suffering and during. The boko haram are terrorising the nation and its peoples. The government has failed to do justice by serving the people well.

        The economy is so bad that children are hungry. All these examples keeps singing in my head that when will all this things end in our country NIGERIA.

YOU MUST LEARN HOW TO FORM A BOND/ATTACHMENT WITH YOUR PARTNER

In every relationship it is good that a man and a woman understand each other in their relationship, so how do they go about it? Take yourself out on a cruise during the holiday, some couples like these and they use it to get closer and closer everyday by getting to know each other. Without you connecting every time it is like the relationship is a total joke. I remember my first boyfriend, we were both in the same university until some departments were moved out of the campus. So our communication was bridged and we broke up "ended our relationship". Is not that we don't call but we don't see each other more often like we use to anymore, we were both very busy with school work at some point, my mobile phone also got stolen later that made it even worse.
The relationship eventually crashed because there was no more communication between ourselves. The bond was broken, so we must have an attachment with our partners so as to be able to understand each other and communicate easily.

LEARN HOW TO BE FRIENDLY WITH FRIENDS OF YOUR PARTNER

It is important to know that friends of your spouse are one the most important people you must take serious because they help to build your relationship so it is necessary that you hold on to his/her friends. You never can tell when your relationship will hit the rock 'brake up' so you must try not to pick friends for him or tell him/her that you don't like one in particular. He may have offended you or embarrassed you 'men are annoying sometimes' but with maturity you have to take the matter with sense by thinking how you can manoeuvre/separating yourself from him without disrespecting him.
He could eventually be the one to save your relationship in the near future so you must try to be very careful.
There are some women who like to select friends for their partners, these women are regarded as being dictators or commanding. If you are this kind of person, it will not help you at all. His close friends or best friends always knows what's best for him/her even if some could distract him/her from doing the right thing or are negatively affecting his/her life, you must pretend you like them.
However, if he didn't like them he wouldn't have them as his friends but if you think there's this particular friend of his/her that will destroy his/her life and your relationship then you must sit him down and advise him to move away from such person.
Be smart, be brave, and be attentive/ready to know who are his good friends and what is good for him, not picky but at least get to know his/her good and bad friends. They help sometimes to solve quarrels, arguments, and other issues found in all relationships.

A CAREER WOMAN

       There are some women who feels that it is better to have a steady career before thinking of marriage, some women don't want to be in a married life with no education. I myself also feel it is necessary to get things right before marring your partner, I feel you can fall in love if you want but when it comes to what are you doing presently, what is your income and what type of marriage life do want to involve yourself with too. Is it that one will be washing his clothes, cleaning his house, and taking care of his children. Remember all these are good character of a good wife but not when you are an house wife, you cater for every thing yet you cannot afford to buy anything you want. For example, you go to a big store and you see this beautiful gown you admired so much but you can't afford to buy it because you are not working and all you do is to depend on your partner for every thing. Some times this is not a good idea it is always good that we women should be educated and have a good source of income so that any place in time when you need money to buy anything you can go ahead and buy it.

       I am also this kind of a lady who thinks it is better to have a career before thinking of marriage because I don't want to be a victim of being an house wife and not having any thing to show what I am capable of, I am a very intelligent woman and I am also an hustler too, I don't want any man to pay my bills or give me allowance to eat, buy my clothes or feed my children. I love shopping a lot and I was raised with a silver spoon. I want to be an achiever, an independent woman, a socialite and not a dependant. I know i have not gotten to where I am going but with God i can.

       I called my pastor one day that I want to speak with him, I told him that I would love to pursue my career and he ask me if I were a married woman and I said no and that can wait, he looked at me and he said I am not getting younger any more and I can have both. He opened his Bible to Matthew 7:7 and it says " Ask, and it shall be given unto you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:

       I went back home and thought to myself that I could do this if the time is right and if i give all my trust to God that makes all things possible. So any career that any woman wants is out there, if you want a man and a career you can have it both. Just keep believing in God, Everything you want will come true. I as a person too want to become something in life and achieve so greatly. You must identify your goals first, what you want to become in life and I am telling you, you will definitely get there Amen.